Seasonal sales show up in our mailboxes by way of newspaper inserts, catalogs, and postcards. Holiday jingles drift into our living rooms from TV commercials. Stores are decked out with fanciful displays, houses of worship prepare the faithful for sacred observances, and social media news feeds are bursting with Christmas tree charcuteries. Holly jolly expectations arrive like a train right on schedule, and we had better hop on board.
But for many, flipping the calendar page to the holiday season doesn’t spark merriment and mirth. According to the CDC, an estimated 20% of adults age 55 or older experience some type of mental health concern, such as anxiety, depression, or cognitive impairment. Depression alone affects several million older adults in the United States. The holiday season can amplify existing mental health challenges, but grief, loss of loved ones, financial concerns, reduced mobility, and lack of close social ties can also play a role in diminishing joy during what we are told should be “the most wonderful time of the year.”
How can you help yourself, or your loved ones, feel better during the holiday season?
Stay in Touch – If gathering in person isn’t possible, try a phone call or video chat, texts and emails – even sharing a holiday meal over Zoom can bring comfort. You might FaceTime a grandchild to teach them how to make your famous cookies or take a few minutes to share your feelings with an old friend. Short, frequent check-ins are often more uplifting than one long visit.
Get Involved – Join a local community group, attend a senior center or VPAS Cafe (vpas.info/vpas-cafes), participate in a volunteer activity, or learn a new skill like wreathmaking. Engaging in shared activities builds companionship and strengthens relationships.
Move and Groove – According to the CDC, older adults should aim for about 2.5 hours of moderate intensity aerobic activity each week, along with at least two days of muscle-strengthening exercises that improve balance. Try a gentle yoga class, Tai Chi, or a walk around the block with a neighbor. Exercise helps release endorphins - the body’s natural mood boosters - and can ease stress and worry.
Validate Feelings – Despite societal pressures, you are under no obligation to be festive. It’s OK to feel how you feel. Give yourself some grace, and offer others the gift of your attention whenever they’re ready to share their emotions.
Tone Down the Tinsel – Bright lights, loud music, and busy gatherings can worsen sadness – especially for those experiencing cognitive decline. Simplify expectations, plan ahead for difficult days, and avoid overstimulation when possible.
Taking just one small step, like attending a noontime community concert, can help boost spirits and offer a sense of hope.
For details on an upcoming concert and more support during the holiday season, call Valley Program for Aging Services at (540) 261-7474.
